You don't enjoy the kind of success Carlo Ancelotti has had at practically every team he has managed without being able to forge a positive relationship with his players.
In fact, one criticism that has often been levelled at the Italian manager has been that he can be too nice to his players, with both Roman Abramovich and Florentino Perez citing it as one of the reasons why he was sacked from Chelsea and Real Madrid respectively.
However, Ancelotti has insisted he isn't quite the pushover everyone thinks in a great interview with the Daily Mail.
"But this (being tough) is not my style. And so I'm not able to be 'tough' in this way. Because I don't think it's a good way. As coaches, we are judged every single year, every single season, every single month, every single day," Ancelotti said.
"But when you manage a team you have to show your character. You cannot be fake. You cannot lie when you face players. This is my style. Of course, when there is a reason, you have to be tough."
It is an approach that seems to have worked so far - winning trophies in England, Italy, Spain and France is no mean feat and he is heavily expected to complete the jigsaw of top European leagues with Bayern Munich in the Bundesliga this season.
But despite his aforementioned statement regarding his style, the former Real Madrid boss openly admitted being prepared to listen to his star player's requests about where they would they would prefer to play.
Cristiano Ronaldo is often maligned for some of his on-field tantrums and Ancelotti revealed he had to adapt his plans to what the Portuguese star wanted.
He added: "At Real Madrid, Ronaldo was the most important player and I had to listen where he preferred to play and after that try to adapt.
"But it was not so difficult because Ronaldo liked to play on the left side, Benzema was a fantastic striker and Bale on the right - I think it was good."
Things like that have the potential to rub the team's other big players up the wrong way but it seemed to pay dividends for Ancelotti, who guided Los Blancos to their tenth European triumph in 2014.
The 57-year-old hasn't ruled out managing England's national team in the future but managers with similar styles have struggled to get much joy in the past.
But you can't argue against his record, Ancelotti gets results.